October 4, 2008

Koreans for Obama?

Mom was watching the television screen from about six inches way during the televised invasion of Iraq. A staunch Bush supporter, motivated to vote for the first time ever when he ran, she felt as though God personally answered her prayer when Bush was put into office.

She was watching with my brother who was freshly graduated from a very liberal college (where he had most memorably declared there to be no biological difference between females and males), and had moved home to consider his next move.

Mom, when the first tanks rolled in, threw her hands in the air and screamed. In victory. She jumped to her feet and marched around the room chanting,”GO BUSH-Y! GO BUSH-Y! JOO-YOOOOH!" And in the next moment, "NORTH KOREA NEXT! NORTH KOREA NEXT! KIM JONG-IL IS NEXT!”

My brother told us this story immediately after, my sister and I as horrified as amused. These are the moments when we feel as though we can see the great divide between mom-world and ours, and really there was no way to bridge it except to simply experience it.

These days with the current election Mom has opted out of politics again. She would never vote for Obama, a black man, and she feels personally betrayed by Bush who was obviously responsible for the current economic crisis. Ever the practical Korean, her pocketbook is where her culture meets her faith – she believes in a God who rewards materially those who obey, which is also not so incidentally the creed of her immigrant generation. I broached this topic just once, making some slight comment about her having believed in Bush and the primal, deep earth Buffy the Vampire slayer growl she uttered in response shut me up immediately – it was a warning that this wound ran way too deep, way too fresh and there was no Confucian way she was going to discuss it ever not to mention with her uppity, democrat daughter. (Something my husband still has a hard time grasping, the perfect ordered-ness of Korean society where everybody is ranked and this dictates how you related – he still tries to sit with the adults at our family get togethers, plopping down next to my sixty year old aunt and asking her these direct, American questions. In English. :)

My uncle understands the current election as generational. For Koreans it is answer enough to say that young people like Obama and older people like McCain. That the divide can be marked like this is highly satisfying for them, and tend to be the first and last thing said in any political discussion about the election.

Which makes me wonder now, Are there any Korean parents out there who do support Obama? Anybody?

posted at 04:22 PM by jenn

Filed under: family

Comments:

10/05/08 08:15 PM

Yes, mine. My parents were registered Republicans probably up until Clinton ran for the white house. Koreans love Clinton here in CA. His 8 years were years of prosperity for many Koreans. As you said, politics meet pocketbook. Since then, they've been voting mostly democratic - my mom faithfully, my dad occasionally. This time around, both of them voted for Hillary in the primaries. For general election, my mom will vote for Obama and my dad said he'll abstain altogether from the presidential vote. That is until, Biden and Palin became the vice-presidential nominees. That sealed it for my dad. Now, it's Obama for him too. Palin is just too much for my dad and apparently, Biden is pro-Korea (so he says and I haven't verified). I do have to disclose though, my parents are a rare minority of Korean Americans who are not church-going Christians. That probably makes a difference.

10/05/08 09:17 PM

hammee is a korean parent who is an avid support of obama. Does she count?

10/05/08 09:43 PM

amyable - what do your parents do? is this LA? i've always been intrigued by the non church-going koreans .. did they ever go and stopped?

and bex - I meant older korean parents not our generation.

jenn

10/05/08 11:59 PM

Jenn - my parents are retired and live in Orange County (1 hr south of LA). My mom has always been a Buddhist. My dad claims to be Buddhist but my assessment is that he's just anti-bible-thumping-or-evangelical-Christian (he really didn't have a religion until he married my mom). All three of their kids are atheists or agnostic. I consider myself a devout atheist.

10/06/08 12:00 AM

You basically described my mom. My mom's preacher told her to vote for Bush and she did enthusiastically. The same preacher told his congregation to vote not for McCain but for Palin and my mom is once again following her preacher's orders. My dad interestingly has come around. He became disillusioned with Bush years ago, feels McCain is vaguely racist (anti-Asian), and thinks Palin is a fraud. So last week he told me on the phone he would be voting Obama, but he also told me "Don't tell your mother".

10/06/08 05:21 PM

My mother is an Obama supporter and registered Democrat. She is also a feminist, was a huge Hillary fan, and goes to church. I definitely know older generation Koreans who are Democrats (NYC/LI) and my mother did say at her church (I don't attend), many of the women liked Hillary. She explained that many of them were thoroughly impressed that a woman could go through the shame of such a publicly adulterous husband and make it to the Senate with her head held high.

10/08/08 10:17 AM

My mother won't register to vote, because she said her friends said if she did, then she'd have to serve jury duty. I asked her what the point of becoming a citizen was then. She said she just keeps her head down and stays quiet. It's like a little gaggle of junior high school girls among her friends. If the Queen Bee says, don't register to vote, they all don't do it. I gave up trying to convince her.

10/08/08 10:17 AM

My mother won't register to vote, because she said her friends said if she did, then she'd have to serve jury duty. I asked her what the point of becoming a citizen was then. She said she just keeps her head down and stays quiet. It's like a little gaggle of junior high school girls among her friends. If the Queen Bee says, don't register to vote, they all don't do it. I gave up trying to convince her.

10/08/08 10:17 AM

My mother won't register to vote, because she said her friends said if she did, then she'd have to serve jury duty. I asked her what the point of becoming a citizen was then. She said she just keeps her head down and stays quiet. It's like a little gaggle of junior high school girls among her friends. If the Queen Bee says, don't register to vote, they all don't do it. I gave up trying to convince her.

10/08/08 11:32 PM

i swear your mom and my grandma are some sort of mystic twins.

love this jenn.

10/11/08 09:30 PM

dad has been a democrat, steered by his lifetime environmental concerns. thinks obama is a good man. i got both my parents to watch that obama speech you forwarded to us about faith or something, which convinced my mom that he is not a muslim.

for those whose parents don't vote, just register for them. tell them you'll take care of it. request a mail-in-voter card. then tell your parents you're voting for them for their best interests. mark the boxes. show it to them. wait for their preoccupied nod. then mail it in. this is not illegal. this is helping them in their busy immigrant lives. remember when you had to translate for them as an 8 year old?

10/12/08 11:42 AM

that same 80 year old aunt in manhattan i mentioned before is an ardent democrat, always has been. She mocks her youngest sister, my mother, who voted for bush both times, a hangover from her love for reagan. (he's the son of reagan's VP, after all). but after the second time my mother was ashamed of herself. this time around i don't know. i suspect mccain but when she visited us and saw the obama sign in our yard, she didn't say a word.

10/13/08 12:08 AM

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10/16/08 03:24 PM

My parents, though unable to vote (30+ year resident aliens), are ardent Obama supporters. This is no surprise since they have also been longtime (un-registered, but socially declared democrats), Clinton supporters and my dad's favorite website is the Huffington Post (Also HUGE Keith Olbermann fans). They are non-church goers who left the local Korean religious community when a new conservative pastor arrived which clashed with much of their want to question religion.

I think they really believe that religious or not, Korean or not, anyone who is really thoughtful about the economy, is concerned about the environment, truly wants to expand health care benefits to more Americans, and just wants honest leadership in the White House would HAVE to, on the foundation of rationality, support Obama.

Interestingly, their two best friends' families (both non-korean) are both to the far right and when those families say they "can't trust" Obama and cite Ronald Reagan as another great example of Republican politicking that McCain would emulate, my dad whips out the refrain that as soon as Reagan left office he would go make public appearances in Asia asking for 3 million dollars a speech. So much for trickle-down economics...

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